Using Fierce Compassion to Stop People-Pleasing and Start Being Real
What if you could use your care and compassion for others as fuel to break the people-pleasing pattern once and for all?
Many people-pleasers worry that setting boundaries, asserting their needs, and prioritizing themselves will make them less compassionate and loving.
But in this paradigm-shifting new talk, certified coach Hailey Magee challenges this notion, asserting that breaking the people-pleasing pattern actually enables us to embody far more kindness and love than ever before.
Research in the fields of psychology and social science shows that for chronic over-givers, learning to prioritize ourselves is the key to relating to others with presence, honesty, and compassion.
Combining research with storytelling and humor, Hailey—a recovering people-pleaser herself—will illuminate a clear path you can follow, and tangible tools you can use, to move away from people-pleasing and toward the joy of true compassion. Along the way, she’ll explore:
People-Pleasing vs. Compassion. People-pleasing is counterfeit compassion; it looks the same on the surface, but underneath, it has completely different motives and completely different outcomes for our relationships. We will explore the best ways to differentiate between the two in real time.
Real Compassion Requires Long-Term Thinking. In the short-term, people-pleasing may make others comfortable, but in the long-term, it harms the very people we claim to care for. We will examine how we can reduce suffering for ourselves and others in the long-term by replacing over-giving, passivity, and misrepresentation of our needs with honesty, authenticity, and assertiveness.
Difficult Honesty as A Cornerstone of Compassion. Sometimes, practicing compassion means bravely saying or doing the difficult, honest thing now to allow for clarity, peace, and freedom later. We’ll explore various self-compassion practices we can use to tolerate the challenging emotions that come with difficult honesty.
Four Strategies We Can Use to Move from People-Pleasing to Compassion. In the final section of the talk, we’ll explore four, concrete practices we can use to discern the motivations behind our giving; practice generosity in ways that fuel instead of deplete us; use long-term thinking to make the most compassionate choices in the present; and flip the script to offer others the same honesty we would wish to be shown.
This pre-recorded talk includes 60 minutes of speaking and 30 minutes of live Q&A.
What if you could use your care and compassion for others as fuel to break the people-pleasing pattern once and for all?
Many people-pleasers worry that setting boundaries, asserting their needs, and prioritizing themselves will make them less compassionate and loving.
But in this paradigm-shifting new talk, certified coach Hailey Magee challenges this notion, asserting that breaking the people-pleasing pattern actually enables us to embody far more kindness and love than ever before.
Research in the fields of psychology and social science shows that for chronic over-givers, learning to prioritize ourselves is the key to relating to others with presence, honesty, and compassion.
Combining research with storytelling and humor, Hailey—a recovering people-pleaser herself—will illuminate a clear path you can follow, and tangible tools you can use, to move away from people-pleasing and toward the joy of true compassion. Along the way, she’ll explore:
People-Pleasing vs. Compassion. People-pleasing is counterfeit compassion; it looks the same on the surface, but underneath, it has completely different motives and completely different outcomes for our relationships. We will explore the best ways to differentiate between the two in real time.
Real Compassion Requires Long-Term Thinking. In the short-term, people-pleasing may make others comfortable, but in the long-term, it harms the very people we claim to care for. We will examine how we can reduce suffering for ourselves and others in the long-term by replacing over-giving, passivity, and misrepresentation of our needs with honesty, authenticity, and assertiveness.
Difficult Honesty as A Cornerstone of Compassion. Sometimes, practicing compassion means bravely saying or doing the difficult, honest thing now to allow for clarity, peace, and freedom later. We’ll explore various self-compassion practices we can use to tolerate the challenging emotions that come with difficult honesty.
Four Strategies We Can Use to Move from People-Pleasing to Compassion. In the final section of the talk, we’ll explore four, concrete practices we can use to discern the motivations behind our giving; practice generosity in ways that fuel instead of deplete us; use long-term thinking to make the most compassionate choices in the present; and flip the script to offer others the same honesty we would wish to be shown.
This pre-recorded talk includes 60 minutes of speaking and 30 minutes of live Q&A.
What if you could use your care and compassion for others as fuel to break the people-pleasing pattern once and for all?
Many people-pleasers worry that setting boundaries, asserting their needs, and prioritizing themselves will make them less compassionate and loving.
But in this paradigm-shifting new talk, certified coach Hailey Magee challenges this notion, asserting that breaking the people-pleasing pattern actually enables us to embody far more kindness and love than ever before.
Research in the fields of psychology and social science shows that for chronic over-givers, learning to prioritize ourselves is the key to relating to others with presence, honesty, and compassion.
Combining research with storytelling and humor, Hailey—a recovering people-pleaser herself—will illuminate a clear path you can follow, and tangible tools you can use, to move away from people-pleasing and toward the joy of true compassion. Along the way, she’ll explore:
People-Pleasing vs. Compassion. People-pleasing is counterfeit compassion; it looks the same on the surface, but underneath, it has completely different motives and completely different outcomes for our relationships. We will explore the best ways to differentiate between the two in real time.
Real Compassion Requires Long-Term Thinking. In the short-term, people-pleasing may make others comfortable, but in the long-term, it harms the very people we claim to care for. We will examine how we can reduce suffering for ourselves and others in the long-term by replacing over-giving, passivity, and misrepresentation of our needs with honesty, authenticity, and assertiveness.
Difficult Honesty as A Cornerstone of Compassion. Sometimes, practicing compassion means bravely saying or doing the difficult, honest thing now to allow for clarity, peace, and freedom later. We’ll explore various self-compassion practices we can use to tolerate the challenging emotions that come with difficult honesty.
Four Strategies We Can Use to Move from People-Pleasing to Compassion. In the final section of the talk, we’ll explore four, concrete practices we can use to discern the motivations behind our giving; practice generosity in ways that fuel instead of deplete us; use long-term thinking to make the most compassionate choices in the present; and flip the script to offer others the same honesty we would wish to be shown.
This pre-recorded talk includes 60 minutes of speaking and 30 minutes of live Q&A.